Remember that feather a friend found during a long springtime walk and handed to you? You put it away in a safe place, on that shelf with your favorite books perhaps, and you are reminded of that walk, that day, that moment and that friend every time your eyes catch the feather.
There are many books that speak of this; of the objects that bring memories to mind, and of ways to create these visual cues quite deliberately. Some call these “shrines”, when they make room for an entire display of memorabilia. It can be that elaborate, or quite simple. What is most interesting is that jewelry can procure such soothing and meaningful visual cues to carry with us throughout the day.
The engagement ring and wedding band are good examples. They are so rich with meaning and moments. They remind us of where we belong and that we chose this. They remind us of growing and enduring love, of promises and deeply connected hearts. They serve as anchor also, giving a sense of hope in the possibility of a glorious future, one that is shared deeply.
Traditions arise when we repeat the same behaviors over time and as others adopt these behaviors. In other words, traditions are created. While the diamond engagement ring remains a classic, it is no longer such a convention that one may not dare stray from tradition.
It is said that it is the thought that counts. We’d like to suggest that the moment counts even more. Think about it. A special gift from a special friend or loved one serves as a milestone. It marks a beginning, a promise, a pledge, a place in time when friendship or love are sealed.
It is interesting to note that in ancient times the engagement or promise ring symbolized ownership as much as love, if not more. In other words, a man claimed his wife. This is still common tradition in some cultures and we must of course allow each one their own path. However, right here, right now, it is most often tenderness and love that we pledge with gifts of promise rings and such.
The traditional symbolism of the circle may be the inspiration for this. Indeed, the circle has long been a symbol of eternity. Like time, it has no beginning and no end. Even its empty center has significance; it is not a void, but a portal.
We often mention the posie ring. It is no longer a traditional gift, but it seems it could serve as strong inspiration for truly romantic jewelry to show friendship and love.
Between the 15th and 17th centuries, French and English women were offered a “posie ring” as a symbol of their engagement to a lover. These rings were simple bands with an inscription on the outside or inside. The inscription consisted in a sentiment or poem. The word “Posie” is believed to be a variation of “Poésie,” the French word for Poetry.
Precisely. Love and deep friendship are poetic by nature. It is quite difficult to explain, yet plain and simple to see. This is why the feather found on a path is so rich with meaning. The same can be said of a pebble or a rock. Nature’s beauty, and poetry, is earth deep.
As you know, we recently acquired a lapidary. We can cut and polish stones right here. This opens up so many opportunities for truly poetic and personal jewelry that captures a moment in time…. the moment of a walk by a river, when you knew you had finally found a soul mate and you both admired a certain, mesmerizing rock in the water, perhaps.
A feather can be used in a dream catcher. A rock is a gem from the earth that can hold the memory of the beginnings of a shared dream.
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